Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop of negative thoughts or self-doubt? Like no matter how hard you try, you just can’t break free from the mental barriers holding you back? I’ve been there too. It’s frustrating and exhausting. But what if I told you there’s a way to unlock your potential by reshaping those very thoughts? That’s where remote thought life coaching comes in. It’s a powerful tool that can help you transform your mindset and, ultimately, your life. Let

Happy holidays! The busy season began last month, and it continues through November and December. For many people, this is a favorite time of year—a season of gathering, giving, and gratitude. For others, it brings stress, expectations, and a whole lot of “stuff.” I’ll be blunt: the holidays have never been my favorite time. I never quite knew how to handle everything that came with them. I know plenty of people who feel the same way, even if we don’t always say it out loud.

My fourth honest reflection this month is about “shoulding” on myself. The first time I heard that expression, I cracked up. I immediately thought, *Well, that is what I have been doing for most of my life.* “Shoulding” is the nicer way of saying: **Stop shitting on yourself.** It is funny—but it is also painfully accurate. I try to catch myself when the “should” talk begins, but it can be surprisingly difficult because the word sounds so responsible. I should exercise more.

The first time I heard the phrase "shoulding on yourself," I cracked up. I thought, well, that's what I've been doing most of my life! (Say it out loud a few times. Go ahead, I'll wait.) These days, I try hard to catch myself when the "should talk" starts. Try this: Count how many times a day you say you should do something. Then count how many times someone else tells you that you should do something. It's a crazy realization. I actually catch myself starting to believe the

The Power of Implementation My third honest reflection this month is about implementation. Years ago, a friend came to my house for dinner. We knew each other through Toastmasters, and I was also his Realtor at the time. It was his first visit to my home. When he walked into my office, he stopped and looked at the many books filling my shelves. I have always loved self-help, personal development, psychology, spirituality, business, health, and anything else that might help me

My second honest reflection this month is about fitness—and the woman I keep comparing myself to. She is me, only 25 years younger. For a woman my age—and honestly, I don’t particularly like that phrase—I am in pretty good shape. Why do we need the qualifier? I still ski, kayak, bike, walk, work out, and play golf. I may not do those things as aggressively or competitively as I once did, but letting go of some of that pressure has allowed me to enjoy these activities in a dif

Last month, I wrote about resilience and grit. In the process, I had to face a few realities about my own life. That reflection led me naturally into October’s theme: **Authenticity and Truth.** This month, I am asking myself a difficult question: Where am I not being completely honest with myself? One of the first questions I asked was, “Why did I stop doing the morning and daily routines that were so important to me?” Those routines—meditation, exercise, writing, learning,

When I first started playing golf, I thought it would be helpful for making business connections. I was right. A lot of business happens on the golf course. I also noticed that when you play fairly well, people seem to listen to you differently—especially when you are a woman. So, because I like competing with myself, I took lessons and learned how to swing. Kind of. Like almost everything else, golf takes practice. The more I played, the more I realized that I never knew whi