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Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop of negative thoughts or self-doubt? Like no matter how hard you try, you just can’t break free from the mental barriers holding you back? I’ve been there too. It’s frustrating and exhausting. But what if I told you there’s a way to unlock your potential by reshaping those very thoughts? That’s where remote thought life coaching comes in. It’s a powerful tool that can help you transform your mindset and, ultimately, your life. Let

Happy holidays! The busy season began last month, and it continues through November and December. For many people, this is a favorite time of year—a season of gathering, giving, and gratitude. For others, it brings stress, expectations, and a whole lot of “stuff.” I’ll be blunt: the holidays have never been my favorite time. I never quite knew how to handle everything that came with them. I know plenty of people who feel the same way, even if we don’t always say it out loud.

My fourth honest reflection this month is about “shoulding” on myself. The first time I heard that expression, I cracked up. I immediately thought, *Well, that is what I have been doing for most of my life.* “Shoulding” is the nicer way of saying: **Stop shitting on yourself.** It is funny—but it is also painfully accurate. I try to catch myself when the “should” talk begins, but it can be surprisingly difficult because the word sounds so responsible. I should exercise more.

The first time I heard the phrase "shoulding on yourself," I cracked up. I thought, well, that's what I've been doing most of my life! (Say it out loud a few times. Go ahead, I'll wait.) These days, I try hard to catch myself when the "should talk" starts. Try this: Count how many times a day you say you should do something. Then count how many times someone else tells you that you should do something. It's a crazy realization. I actually catch myself starting to believe the

The Power of Implementation My third honest reflection this month is about implementation. Years ago, a friend came to my house for dinner. We knew each other through Toastmasters, and I was also his Realtor at the time. It was his first visit to my home. When he walked into my office, he stopped and looked at the many books filling my shelves. I have always loved self-help, personal development, psychology, spirituality, business, health, and anything else that might help me

My second honest reflection this month is about fitness—and the woman I keep comparing myself to. She is me, only 25 years younger. For a woman my age—and honestly, I don’t particularly like that phrase—I am in pretty good shape. Why do we need the qualifier? I still ski, kayak, bike, walk, work out, and play golf. I may not do those things as aggressively or competitively as I once did, but letting go of some of that pressure has allowed me to enjoy these activities in a dif

Last month, I wrote about resilience and grit. In the process, I had to face a few realities about my own life. That reflection led me naturally into October’s theme: **Authenticity and Truth.** This month, I am asking myself a difficult question: Where am I not being completely honest with myself? One of the first questions I asked was, “Why did I stop doing the morning and daily routines that were so important to me?” Those routines—meditation, exercise, writing, learning,

When I first started playing golf, I thought it would be helpful for making business connections. I was right. A lot of business happens on the golf course. I also noticed that when you play fairly well, people seem to listen to you differently—especially when you are a woman. So, because I like competing with myself, I took lessons and learned how to swing. Kind of. Like almost everything else, golf takes practice. The more I played, the more I realized that I never knew whi

A Time of Reflection and Growth I have to say, August and September have been challenging months for me. Reality hit me squarely in the face. My website was not what I thought it was—or what it needed to be. I didn’t have the money to hire someone to fix everything and make it work, so I had a decision to make: keep feeling overwhelmed by what I didn’t know, or slow down and start learning how to improve it myself. At the same time, something wonderful happened. I got married

My husband and I went to the doctor this morning. He has been dealing with major back problems and desperately wants someone to fix them. We left the appointment without the answer he had hoped for. Surgery is not the answer—at least not yet. I watched him leave the doctor’s office feeling frustrated and defeated. It is difficult to watch a man who has always been active and athletic feel as though his body is beginning to fail him. It is also difficult to love someone and fe

I thought I would lighten things up a little this week—with a story about mud, obstacles, teamwork, and one very tired mother. A few years ago, my youngest son and I participated in a Tough Mudder at Northstar in the Lake Tahoe area. My middle child—my oldest son—was serving in the Marines and stationed overseas. I think participating was one small way for us to feel closer to him. I can’t say I was the best “overseas mom,” but that is an entirely different guilt story for an

This month, we’re exploring resilience and grit—stories of setbacks and comebacks, lessons found within challenges, and practices that can help us become emotionally stronger.

Holy moly—what does it mean to create boundaries for yourself? We often think of boundaries as rules we establish with other people. We tell someone we will not accept disrespectful language. We decide when we are available for work. We limit how much money we are willing to lend. We protect time for our health, family, relationships, and personal interests. But boundaries are not only about what we allow from others. We also need rules for ourselves. We need to decide how we

I will not pretend to be an expert on corporate workplace boundaries. I have always been more of an entrepreneur than a corporate employee. Most of my experience comes from working in real estate, running businesses from home, and participating in the Buffini coaching program. But working for yourself does not automatically mean you have healthy boundaries. In fact, self-employment can make boundaries even more difficult. When I first became a Realtor, I believed I needed to

I do not know about you, but when I became a parent, I read as much as I could. I wanted to be the best parent possible. I wanted to understand what my children needed, how to discipline them fairly, and how to help them become healthy, responsible adults. Then I actually became a parent. Parenting is one of the most humbling experiences I have ever had. I have three children. They have the same mother, the same father, and were raised in the same household—and they are compl

I listen to several podcasts, and one I especially enjoy is Brené Brown’s. I have read her books, used her journals, and often find that something she says stays with me long after the episode ends. One discussion that stayed with me was about the difference between fitting in and belonging. In simple terms, fitting in means changing who you are so you will be accepted by a group or within a relationship. You adjust yourself, hide certain parts, and sometimes even put on a ma

Loving someone with an addiction is one of the most heartbreaking experiences a person can go through. When someone you love struggles with addiction, you can spend years believing that if you love them enough, help enough, rescue enough, explain enough, or sacrifice enough, they will finally choose differently. At least, that is what I believed. I poured countless hours into trying to save someone I loved. I missed time with my own children, rearranged holidays and family ce

For years I thought there was something wrong with me.

As the weather begins to warm and the energy of a changing season arrives, something inside of us seems to wake up. The days grow longer, we spend more time outside, and life naturally begins to expand. Goals that once seemed distant suddenly feel possible. Spring reminds me of a growing garden. The tiny seeds planted weeks ago fight their way through the soil, reaching toward the sun. Their journey is not easy. They must push through darkness before they ever see the light.

Change often feels like stepping into the unknown. Whether it’s moving from single life to marriage and motherhood, switching careers, or entering retirement, these transitions challenge us to grow and heal. Healing is not just about fixing what’s broken. It’s about becoming a new, whole version of ourselves through acceptance, self-love, and purposeful action. This process can be deeply transformative when we engage with it through prayer, meditation, breathwork, and letting